What’s blame? It’s unprocessed emotions projected onto someone, by someone who doesn’t want to take responsibility/do the work. I always used to adjust myself to friends and family and partners who put their moods onto me and their work onto me (ie their half of the relationship) because I grew up with people who couldn’t or didn’t want to do the work, so if I didn’t? There was NO relationship. Simples. So I inherently knew that I had to take the blame for things that were not mine in order to maintain relationships. Interestingly now I don’t do that anymore I’ve lost people... or rather, they’ve lost me.
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